Having just read a very powerful book written by a friend ‘It’s all in your mind’ living with Depression, one think I learnt was that we shouldn’t judge a book by its cover.
But today I want to look at the power of the word ‘LISTEN’ and as a result I have broken it down into six different words that I associate with it.
Here goes –
L = Learn. Listening is an art and a very powerful tool in life so we all need to learn to slow down and take more notice.
I – Interest. Whether you understand or have a different opinion the art of listening is show interest. When you show interest it may just give that person the confidence to flourish. We all have busy lives and ‘interest’ works both ways.
S = Sympathy. This was a hard one to match as when you listen it must be genuine and not sarcastically and if you show genuine sympathy (empathy) it is a great feel good tonic.
T = Time. A wise person told me that you cannot give back time which is true however are we really too busy to stop and listen to a friend or a stranger in a moment of need?
E = Emotions. Emotions are as powerful as listening and having a release is critical and a great release for stress. Let’s face it stress eats us up and can cause all kind of problems so hell why not have a meltdown/showdown at 47 it’s a release of emotions and people will listen, it works for a child.
N = Notice. Being alert to people’s body language and listening to their tone of voice can show you how they feel so learn to notice people as not everyone has a voice or believes they should be heard. Engaging with someone whether it’s a smile or a gesture shows you have noticed.
One think I know for sure, is that I certainly put the above into action when I volunteer at the Royal Marsden Chelsea as a friend and a past patient. I know what I wanted and so many people say it’s like been at home. That is because we create a safe haven for everyone and we ‘listen’.
So, now I have taken on another challenge and will be acting at the Chair of the Committee for Maggie’s as the charity of the year 2019 for the BADA fair next March and really excited to have been asked. I will be putting the above into practise to achieve the goals.
So, please we all know or, at least try to listen to our own bodies and may even have a few words with ourselves but please open your eyes and look around you as we all have a form of mental health and know someone who may just need us to listen.
If you want to read a thought provoking book then check out Karen Buckley’s ‘It’s all in your mind’ living with depression. Available on Kindle or via Amazon.
And, if you can make a difference stop and listen and look at the six word association.